Series: “Love Gifts: What Matter’s Most!”- Part 2
Sermon: “Understand Me?”
Scripture Lesson: Matthew 5:43-48
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Series: “Love Gifts: What Matters Most!”
“Understand Me?”
Pastor Jerry
January 26, 2020
We continue the series “What Matters Most” and today we’ll talk about “understanding each other.”
Women are different from Men …duh!
Men (most notably) are ___________ brain
Women (most notably) are __________ brain.
A man decides because ______________________________.
A woman decides because ____________________________.
One is not right or wrong —better or worse — just __________.
These difference can enhance your relationship …or it can cause severe conflict. It all depends on how much you understand this difference.
The Bible says conflict is caused by ____________.
“Do you know where your fights and arguments come from? They come from selfish desires that war within you.” James 4:1
Ways to Deal with Differences or Conflict
(1) _________________ means I fight till I win and you give in.
(2) ________________ means you’re not getting me into a fight.
(3) _________________ means I always give in to you.
(4) _________________ means I give in sometimes.
(5) _________________ means we work together for a solution.
God tells us how to work out our differences: “Let love be your greatest aim.” 1 Corinthians 14:1
To learn how to love the Bible teaches us that love is a ____________ and a ________________.
If I choose to love I will not just look at my own _____________, my own ___________; but I have to look at your _____________.
Love has to be demonstrated in some small way ______________.
Did you know that a woman needs to be held and embraced (non-sexual way) ____________times a day to feel close to her partner.
A woman needs romantic ________________ to prove ones love.
The secret of overcoming conflict is understanding where people are __________________.
Understanding male/female differences is learning how to love them. How do you learn to understand them: by ___________________.
Love is more than ______________. Love is an _____________.
“Let us love not with words or tongue but with action and in truth.” 1 John 3:18
Acting in ________when not feeling it is the highest form of love.
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Series: “Love Gifts: What Matters Most!”
“Understand Me?”
Pastor Jerry
January 26, 2020
Two weeks ago we talked about what matters most in healthy relationships. We talked about “true love.” Talked about how to develop a kind of love that just gets better and better and that can last for a lifetime. God who is Love, He tells us how to have “true love.” I Corinthians 13 is the definition of “True Love”: “Love is kind, patient, isn’t jealous, doesn’t brag, is not arrogant, doesn’t act unbecomingly and is not provoked.”
Today …we want to continue this series and talk about “Understanding Each Other.”
Women are different from men …duh! Men make decisions because in his head it makes sense (he think it is right). Women decide because in her heart it feels right (she senses it right). One is not right or wrong – better or worse, just different.
This difference can enhance your relationship …or it can cause severe conflict. It all depends on how much you understand this difference. The Bible says conflict is caused by selfishness. James 4:1 “Do you know where your fights and arguments come from? They come from selfish desires that war within you.” I want what I want. I am basically a selfish person.
Every relationship has differences. Growing up, you learned one of five ways to deal with differences or conflict.
Some of you are “My way” resolvers. “My way” means I fight till I win and you give in. I’m going to get my way. I am totally right. You are totally wrong.
Others of you are “No way” people. That is “There’s No Way you’re getting me into a fight.” I back away from all conflict. I withdraw, pull back, ignore the problem.
The third way is “Your way”. That means I always give in. I always give in to you, I want your approval so badly that I roll over and play dead, I become a doormat.
Fourth is “Half Way”. That’s where we compromise. We win some and we lose some. I give in sometimes, you give in sometimes. It’s certainly better than the previous ones.
Better way is “Our Way”. Our way is when we work out mutual goals together, where we care about the relationship more than any single issue.
In 1 Corinthians 14:1 God says this, “Let love be your greatest aim.” Because God is love. And God wants you to be like him. So he created you to learn how to love. To learn how to love the Bible teaches us is that love is a choice and a commitment. You choose to love or you choose not to love. It is a choice. It takes God to help us do that. It is a mental shift that we do not do naturally. But it’s the secret of understanding differences and resolving conflict.
Women want you to prove your love in some tangible way. Love has to be demonstrated in some small way EVERYDAY. People need to be touched to survive …to live. A woman needs gifts to prove your love… A gift says you are worthwhile …no gifts say you are worthless.
The secret of overcoming conflict is understanding where people are coming from. How do you learn to understand them? Listen. Listen more than you talk. Love is more than attraction. Love is an action. It’s something you do. Love is a behavior.
The Bible says this in 1 John 3:18 “Let us love not with words or tongue [in other words, just talk about it] but with action and in truth.” You have to make a conscious decision to love someone that makes that person feel good. I don’t know about you but I want to be more loving. I personally want to be more loving toward others.