Communicate?

Series: “Love Gifts: What Matter's Most!”- Part 3 Sermon: "Communicate?" Scripture Lesson: James 3:1-12  

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Series: “Love Gifts: What Matters Most!”

"Communicate?"

Pastor Jerry

February 2, 2020

  We continue the series “What Matters Most” and today we’ll talk about “communication.” “All of us often make mistakes. But if a person never makes a mistake in what he says, he is perfect.”  James 3:2 ________ % of communication is verbal; ________% body language &facial expression; ________% tone of the voice. It’s not so much __________you say but __________you say it.   James explains how important our words are.  He indicates that “my mouth, my words, they direct where I go.”  

Before you can communicate with words:

  (1) A person needs to know that you _____________________ and _____________________. Rather than trying to “fix the problem”  just “listen.” James explains how important our words are.  He indicates that “my mouth, my words, they can destroy what I have.”   (2) A person needs to know that you _____________________ and ______________________. We often want to make a person feel better . In a time of crisis you need to realize that you don’t have to  ______________________ …just __________________. A woman wants your ________________not your ____________.   James explains how important our words are.  He indicates that “my mouth, my words, displays who I really am.”   (3) A person needs to know that you ________________________________________________________. Communication problems are not caused by the differences between men/women, but caused by the lack of understanding of the differences. A woman gets her sense of worth from ____________________. A man gets his sense of worth from _______________________. A man is happy when he is ______________________________. A woman is productive when she is _______________________.   A typical couple spend _______ minutes a week talking together. Nobody cares about how much you ___________________ until they know how much you ______________________. _________________ expresses a connection/communication.   For communication to happen, one must first feel special, accepted, loved and appreciated.   

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Series: “Love Gifts: What Matters Most!”

"Communicate?"

Pastor Jerry

February 2, 2020

For the last two weeks we have been talking about what matters most in healthy relationships.  The first week we talked about “true love.”  Last week we talked about “understanding each other.” Today …we want to continue this series and talk about “communication.”  We’re going to be talking about how do you love with your words?  James 3:2 says “All of us often make mistakes. But if a person never makes a mistake in what he says, he is perfect.”  Before you can communicate with words a person you speak to needs to know that:

• You respect them as a person (valve their ideas and feelings)
• That they have a right to express their ideas (and you want to hear them)
• That they are worthy of being listened to (and you are interested in them)

James explains how important our words are.  He says, “My mouth, my words, they direct where I go.”  The picture James gave us is the picture of a rudder on a ship.  You see a small ruder guides a big ship.  Our mouth, our words, our conversation is like the rudder to our lives. (1) Before you can communicate with words a person needs to know that you valve their ideas and feelings. Often we feel that we know more what another person needs than they themselves. James talks about how important our words are.  He says, “My mouth can destroy what I have.” Because they’re so powerful, words can also be destructive. (2) Before you can communicate with words a person needs to know that you want to talk with them and to hear them. We often want to make a person feel better when they share their stories with us. The problem is we want to make the pain go away. You need to realize that you don’t have to fix it or you don’t have to solve the problem. My mouth displays who I really am.  The picture James gives of this is a picture of a mountain spring. (3) Before you can communicate with words a person needs to know that you think they are worthy of being listening to. Communication problems are not caused by the differences between men/women…but caused by lack of understanding of the differences …or lack of appreciation for the differences. Women seem to enjoy conversation for its own sake. Men use conversation as a means to an end. A man is happy when he is productive. A woman is productive when she is happy. Nobody cares about how much you know until they know how much you care. Touch expresses a connection/communication. Before you can communicate with words a person you speak to needs to know that: - You respect them as a person (valve their ideas and feelings) - That they have a right to express their ideas (and you want to hear them) - That they are worthy of being listened to (and you are interested in them) For communication to happen, one must first feel accepted, loved and appreciated.